In a personal computer with the Windows operating system, Ctrl-Alt-Delete is the combination of keyboard keys that the computer user can press at the same time to terminate an application task or to reboot the operating system (have it shut down and restart itself). Imagine if it was as simple as that with your mind? To be able to control a situation, to create an alternative, and then to delete what is destructive and no longer serves us. Well, Control, Alt - Delete can be instant metaphysically, the challenge is inviting the rest of the body to join in with what the mind is willing to change!
In a computer it happens instantaneously at a click of a mouse or the press of the keys; in real life when we need to ‘reboot’ or ‘reset’ our own physicality, health, and clarity, it only takes longer because the wiring between the mind and the physical (the action) can be compromised due to out of balanced chemistry, bias, beliefs or in other words ‘mid-ear banter!’
Remember we can talk ourselves in and out of anything, it just depends on how strong our mind is at any given time.
At our Lifestyle Reset Retreats, we work on sorting this out, by anchoring new experiences with more joy. We use scents and smells of essential oils (aromatherapy), moving the body, and getting more than the theory of movement into the psyche, we actually incorporate ‘movement into the sessions’. Using loving thoughts, laughter, and language (The 3 L’s) we move through stuff without too much carnage, after all, life is meant to be enjoyed, in a good-natured spirit so, tackled with more awareness we can do amazing things. Here’s a story about an old Cherokee Indian who is teaching his grandson about life going over the very mind battle with which we all go through every day!
An old Cherokee Indian is teaching his grandson about life. He uses the analogy of the two wolves. He speaks of the fight that goes on inside of all of us, and at the same time a fight that the Cherokee grandfather is experiencing. He begins to share with the boy.
“There is a terrible fight/battle that goes on between two wolves. One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.”
He continued, “The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.”
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?”
The old Cherokee looked at his grandson and smiled as he replied, “The one you feed!”
So which one are you feeding? I ask myself this all the time, especially when I find I’m going into resentment, superiority, and/or self-pity. I can change that in seconds by doing a mental ‘control, alt and delete’ and reboot my thoughts. This is powerful, and a subject I will be going over in far more detail at our next retreat. Some people need to put a bit of practice in, as the old paradigm tends to dominate the psyche. In order to change that paradigm, you need to change the environment and the circumstances which created the paradigm in the first place, which is why so many of our previous attendees have enjoyed the change of scene and the time off the merry go round to go into restoration, in mind and body and spirit.
When we feed the resentful Wolf, we need to be mindful that our negative thoughts, feelings, and experiences, are not to be a reason to place blame on other people, objects, or events. We look outward to try to make sense of what’s going on inside of us. We do this all the time. Why? It’s our way of coping and feeling more in control of uncontrollable situations.
The problem with this approach, however, is that it takes away our personal responsibility and freedom of choice. In our attempt to feel more in control (by faulting others for our experience) we actually strip ourselves of our own power. That power is lost the moment we become dependent on other people or things to make us feel a certain way. Whether that feeling is positive or negative, we are no longer taking sole responsibility for our own emotions or experiences when we believe that they are a result of anything other than our own choice. The only thing we have control over is our thoughts!
By exercising your freedom of choice, you can make a life-changing decision of which wolf you want to feed. Do you feed the wolf who is hungry for anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego? This evil wolf is also your inner critic. The one who tells you that you are a failure, the one who says that no one will love you or understand you for who you are. This wolf is a representation of your depression, your anxiety, and low self-esteem. Do you want to feed this wolf? Are you feeding him already?
By cutting off the evil wolf’s food supply, you will be making a choice to use your energy and resources on thoughts, feeling, and emotions that serve you in healthy ways. While you can recognize the negative emotions occurring within you, you don’t have to attach to them or continue to give them attention. By shifting your focus sends a sign to the wolf that you are not interested in giving him food. And while it may take some time for that wolf to lose his strength and power, eventually he will surrender – as will your unhelpful thoughts and emotions. Once you stop fixating on them, they will eventually drift away.
So what about the other wolf? How do you nourish the other wolf? How do you keep happy?
Happiness isn’t a conditional state. It’s a state of being. True lasting happiness comes from making an active choice to be happy, rather than depending on external things to make you happy. This is where the ‘Alt’ comes into play. I make myself happy by going into gratitude, it works every time. By focusing on what I’m grateful for, I inadvertently delete all negative thoughts, there simply isn’t enough room in my brain for sabotaging thoughts when I’m concentrating on being thankful.
Read the story again about the old Cherokee, it may just be that you need to hear that several times, to digest the meaning. I know I did. Just as you would with the bad wolf, it is imperative that you exercise your freedom of choice and decide to nourish the wolf of joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith.
We often look to external objects for our fulfillment and happiness. We develop expectations that these things (a new job, a relationship, a lavish vacation, a brand new pair of shoes, a glass of wine, etc.) will finally make us feel the way we want to feel. And while this may bring momentary gratification, it isn’t realistic to maintain this long-term.
To control our thoughts, we need to introduce an alternative thought, and then without even a worry, delete the old paradigm.