A lecturer was explaining stress management to an audience. He raised a glass of water and asked “How heavy do you think this glass of water is?” Some people called out their answers by suggesting variable weights of 20g to 500g.
The lecturer replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t really matter. It depends on how long you try to hold it!”
That stayed with me for quite a while, I thought about what he said, holding on to a glass of water for a minute is not such a problem, perhaps after an hour, you may have an ache in your arm. Holding on to the glass for a day, and you may need to go to the hospital, or need an ambulance to get to the hospital!
In each case, it’s the same weight, but the longer you hold the glass, the heavier it becomes.
That’s the way it is with perception (stress). If we carry out burdens all the time, sooner or later the burden becomes increasingly heavy, and we won’t’ be able to carry on.
As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again. When we’re refreshed, we can carry on with the burden. Have you heard about the concept of ‘sleeping on it’, or ‘putting it to rest?’ This is another way of saying, ‘let it go’ for just long enough to gather some emotional and vibrational energy.
So before you return home tonight, put the burden of work down. Don’t carry it home. If you work from home, find a part of your home that you have created a sanctuary in, and spend time there, for me that’s the garden. It’s a pleasant thing to do, just walking around on grass to stimulate the senses and relieve myself of any negative thoughts or feelings.
Leave the burden, you can pick it up tomorrow. Whatever burdens you’re carrying now, let them down for a moment if you can.
I like to visualize the opposite of what is bothering me, if I’m starting to go into worry about how to pay a bill or tossing over something someone may have said, I replace it with a visualization of me paying the bill with gratitude and joy and sending warmth and care to someone that may have said something perceived to be untrue by me. So that I can right the wrong in my own head, I focus on good things, good experiences, and then I’m off and into my happy place!
Here are some great ways of dealing with the burdens of life.. (they are only suggestions which you may already have in place, but doesn’t hurt to revisit)
- Accept that some days you’re the pigeon, and some days you’re the statue.
- When you go out, always make sure you are wearing your best undies, you never know when that could matter!
- Drive as if you have a legend in your car, because you do and its ‘YOU’.
- If you have a choice between being kind or right, always chose ‘kind’.
- If you lend someone $20 and never see that person again, it was probably worth it.
- It may be that your sole purpose in life is simply to be kind to others.
- Always talk about someone as if they are right there beside you, (this one will save your butt).
- Since it’s the early worm that gets eaten by the bird, sleep late.
- The second mouse gets the cheese.
- When everything’s coming your way, you’re in the wrong lane.
- Birthdays are good for you. The more you have, the longer you live.
- You may be only ‘one person’ in the world, but you may also be the world to one person.
- Some mistakes are too much fun to only make once.
- A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery on a detour.
- We could learn a lot from crayons…Some are sharp, some are pretty and some are dull. Some have weird names, and all are different colours, but they all have to live in the same box.
Have a wonderful day and take heart that someone has thought about you today, I did! Oh and if you are holding onto something, put it aside, stand in the rain and enjoy the sensation of nature’s gift.